Relationships are tricky. At first site everyone looks pretty good. People—both men and women—are on their best behavior. They’re out to impress. But people can’t hide their true identity for long. The truth, like a cork, always floats to the top.
Sometimes you find out that your love interest smokes. It may or may not be a deal breaker for you. Perhaps you don’t mind. Or you might discover that he or she snores. Very loudly! Again, may or may not be a deal breaker.
But what if, after dating for a while, you discover that your love interest has anger issues. And one day that anger is taken out on you, and you’re struck, knocked down and kicked. You might think, “Oh, it’s only once. I may have deserved it; I should never have been late to dinner.” STOP right there!!!
There is never a reason to physically, or verbally abuse anyone. If the person you’re dating doesn’t have the ability to speak about what’s happening and instead chooses to strike out, that’s a problem that in most cases cannot be fixed. It’s time to get out!
“But, he’s so nice most of the time. He bought me a ring for my birthday, and took me to the best restaurant to make up for it. I’m sure he won’t do it again.”
WRONG! He will. That sweet spot is called the honeymoon phase in a battering relationship.
Don’t allow anyone to treat you like a punching bag. Nothing in life is worth it. No jewelry, no thing, no make up sex, no sweet words of remorse. Nothing.
You are of value. Priceless, even. Know it, and then treat yourself accordingly.