Skin Deep


I was at a party recently when I heard someone at my table say, “She was an ugly woman!” Ouch. I don’t know the woman to whom he was referring, but I wouldn’t have wanted to be her.

Several things went through my mind when I looked at the man making the remark. One, who is he to judge her looks? Two, why was he even saying something like that? It is these types of judgments that I often hear; people evaluating other people on their looks, their talents, or lack thereof.

Since when did we become Judge & Jury? We have no right to criticize someone’s looks.

Let’s suppose a woman is born with a port wine stain on her face. What can she do about it other than have multiple laser surgeries that might or might not work? And what if that same woman doesn’t want to go through that? Why should she be judged on the way she looks, on something that she can’t change, nor should she have to just to appease whosoever looking at her.

We are all born with a certain package. Maybe some packages are wrapped a little nicer than others. But it’s what’s wrapped that’s important. The package can change in the blink of an eye. You could be wrapped in a beautiful package that can get eaten by a chimp, like Charla Nash’s  did in 2011, or burned in a terrible accident, like Jaqueline Saburido did in 1999. Then what?

We need to stop judging people by the way they look. We need to stop judging people, period.

If you were to walk into a botanical garden and look around, what would you see? Flowers, lots of flowers, all different shapes, sizes, colors. Would you judge them? Would the flowers judge each other? “Hey, hey look at that rose over there. Who does it think it is so red and with so many petals? Bitch!” Or look at that tulip over by the fence! What’s it doing here in this garden? It should be in the trash, it’s so ugly.”

Never! You would never hear that. But here are the humans, so big and mighty. So judgmental, looking out but not looking within.

It is time to stop judging what’s ugly, what’s not. It’s not for us to decide, to sit on that pedestal. Get beyond that.

The package with which we are born is just that, a package. We must discover the gem hidden within it. That is where the true beauty lies.

Beauty, after all, is only skin deep.