Love-less on Valentine’s Day?


Valentine’s Day is a day just like any other. Except that’s it’s been given a lot of power. Look around. As the day approaches, all you can see are hearts, Cupids, couples in love, RED everywhere. It stands to reason, then, that if you don’t have a significant other, you might feel left out of the equation. Your self-esteem might drop a few notches. You might start to feel like a third wheel. While all of your couple friends talk about their special “love” plans, you’re thinking, “What am I going to do? I don’t have a mate with whom to share the special day.” And as the day gets closer and closer, you might start to feel depressed. Stop right there!

Are you going to let a day of the week bully you into feeling bad about yourself?

Valentine’s Day is about LOVE! Why does the love have to come from a man or a woman? Why can’t it come from somewhere else? There’s a lot of love in the world. It’s available for the taking. There are family members who love you. There are friends who love you. Love is love. Period. Don’t cry yourself to sleep thinking, “Woe is me. No one loves me.” Nonsense.

The day after VD you’ll wake up and it will be day just like any other day. Possibly there will be lots of sales on the Valentine’s Day stuff that didn’t sell. Because for the most part, Valentine’s Day is a day to make money. The restaurants make money. The florists make money. The card companies make money. The candy stores make money. It’s a very profitable holiday.

Try to see Valentine’s Day for what it really is—just another day. If you want to do something on VD, find someone you love and who loves you. It doesn’t matter if they’re your soul mate, your sister, your cousin, or your best friend. Love is great no matter what the source. Stop fretting about not having a mate. You don’t need one.

So Happy Love Day to You! You are loved whether you think so or not!

  • Roslyn Tanner Evans

    Couldn’t agree with you more. We devoted most of our FB posts this week to aspects of love. I included articles for singles, ways and ideas to enjoy the day as a single. What we loved about any emphasis of V day is to highlight the importance of letting all you love know it, including yourself.

    • askjoshsmom

      Thank you so much, Roslyn, for your feedback. I wholeheartedly agree with your view. I think we’re on the same page here. Thanks again. I hope we continue to stay connected. Have a wonderful day!