So many people associate being sexy with being beautiful, good looking. But is that what being sexy is really all about?
When we think about it, beauty is not something we create ourselves, so we shouldn’t get the credit for it. It so happens that while we were being created, our genes came together in a certain way. We actually have to thank our genetic make up. Some people may have gotten some surgery to alter their physical appearance, but I’m talking about being naturally beautiful, sans surgery.
In a TED talk I listened to, model Cameron Russell said she “won the genetic lottery because she is tall, pretty, and an underwear model.”
Ms. Russell goes on to say, “ . . . because the thing that we never say on camera, that I have never said on camera, is, ‘I am insecure.’ And I’m insecure because I have to think about what I look like every day. And if you ever are wondering,” ‘If I have thinner thighs and shinier hair, will I be happier?’ you just need to meet a group of models, because they have the thinnest thighs and the shiniest hair and the coolest clothes, and they’re the most physically insecure women probably on the planet. . . Looks aren’t everything. Believe me, I’m a model.”
The average people in the world—that’s most of us—aren’t going to become supermodels, or appear on the cover of GQ. But that doesn’t mean we can’t be sexy. Confidence = Sexy. That’s what makes us truly beautiful. And not having it can have the opposite effect, even if we happen to have good genes.
We were not in control of our genetic make up, but we are in control of how we move through life. Nobody can argue with self-confidence because when we have it, we’re in charge. It shows in how we carry ourselves, how we talk, walk, and present ourselves. That’s more important and noticeable than a beautiful person who is awkward, and self-loathing. And there are plenty of those around.
I’m not saying that being beautiful is a terrible thing. Hey, if you got the gene combo that makes you beautiful, more power to you. Enjoy! What I am saying is that being beautiful physically doesn’t make us beautiful. There’s a lot more that goes into it. Have you ever known a beautiful person, and the more you got to know them, the less beautiful they became? What happened? Unless they were disfigured in an accident, their looks didn’t change, right? It was their unattractive, real self coming through. The opposite is also true. When I first met my algebra teacher while working on my bachelors, I didn’t consider her to be what most people would call good looking. But, oh my, by the end of the quarter she was one of the most beautiful people I’d ever met. Her true beauty—her intelligence, sense of humor, kindness, and dedication—emanated out of her, and that’s all I could see.
Genetics are genetics. It’s a roll of the dice. But self-confidence is something else; it is the Recognition of who we truly are. And there’s nothing more beautiful, and sexy than that!