Anyone above the age of 12 has more than likely had their heart broken by someone breaking up with them. And it usually happens more than once in a lifetime. But we cannot exist without love. And love does not exist without heartbreak. That’s just the way it is. When someone breaks your heart, then what?
It’s going to suck. The pain will seem unbearable. You’ll shed tears, curse your ex, rehash the break-up, place blame, feel rejected, stop eating, eat too much, watch sad movies, and listen to sad songs. Yeah, we’ve all been there. Since none of us can avoid the “Break-up Owie,” let me give you some helpful ways to deal with it:
1. Embrace the pain. Yes, it’s going to hurt a lot, but you have to feel it, and then release it. Don’t close up your heart, and hold onto the pain; it will just rot inside of you like week-old trash. Get it out!
2. Take each day as it comes. Time, The Great Healer, will do its magic, I promise. There is nothing that Time cannot heal. Trust it! And trust yourself. You’re stronger than you think you are.
3. It’s not the end of the world. It may feel like it is, but it’s not. You’ll be fine. Give yourself a lot of love; you deserve it. One day you’ll look back and be grateful because you ended up with someone who reciprocates your love. I’ve experienced heartbreak many a time. But guess what? Each time I found someone better, until I finally found my soul mate. You will too!
4. Surround yourself with supportive family members and friends. They’re a balm for your broken spirit. Let them shower you with love. Whatever you do, don’t isolate yourself. That’s emotional suicide.
5. Learn to feel okay being alone. Don’t try to immediately find a replacement. There’s a reason why the relationship broke up. Explore the whys. Is there something on which you can work? Take the time to become the best You! Don’t wallow in self-pity; you’ll just spiral downward, and it will be harder to get back up. So don’t stay down for long. Pull yourself up, and steady yourself as you start again.
6. Forgive your ex. If they were terrible to you, then be glad they left. You deserve better. If they were good, remember . . . people fall out of love, change their minds. Hating them forever won’t do you any good. It will just cause you pain that you don’t need to keep inside of you.
7. Don’t play the blame game; it’s one you’re sure to lose. After it’s over, it doesn’t matter who’s at fault. Usually both partners had a hand in the break-up. One of them may not have been as clued-in.
Break-ups will never be easy, even if they’re mutual. It is the death of something that was at one point good. And that part will be missed. Remember, all relationships end, either because of a break-up or a death. You must carry on. Eventually everything will be okay again. You’ll laugh, watch funny movies, and resume going out. All you need is a little TLC. Give it to yourself, and gratefully take it from others.